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Why do men cheat? why did he do it in today’s article, I’m going to explain the exact factors that are involved when a man cheats,
and how you can prevent it from happening to you in the future.
A question that women constantly ask themselves is
- why did it happen?
- Why did he go off and do something stupid?
- why did he go off to this other girl?
- what caused him to cheat?
Well, I want to do today is explain the factors behind cheating, and the reality of cheating is that there’s no one single factor that leads to it.
It’s a combination of five different factors that can all contribute in their own ways to a man cheating or staying loyal.
I want to explain those factors for you today and in today’s article.
I’m going to give you a real overview as to how those factors come together to lead to a man either cheating or staying loyal.
Now in subsequent articles what I want to do for you is explain these factors in more detail. So I’m going to make this into a little six-part series and in each of those follow-up articles, I’m going to explain these factors on an individual level, and how you can help with some of them.
You can’t control all of them but there are some, where you can play a part to minimize the chance and to make it virtually zero. Once you understand the factors, once you know how to choose the right man of infidelity ever happening to you.
So the first factor that’s involved in a man cheating and why men cheat is the most important one and it’s
1. It’s Unmet Needs
Now cheating never happens when someone is getting all their needs in every area. now some of those needs may be subconscious so, This could be someone who thinks they’re getting all their needs, and then still finds themselves cheating.
So unmet needs. what would be an example of an unmet need? well, if a man feels emasculated that could be an example of an unmet need. If a man isn’t feeling the excitement or passion that he wants that could be an example of an unmet need.
So unmet needs what would be an example of an unmet need? well, if a man feels emasculated that could be an example of an unmet need. If a man isn’t feeling the excitement or passion that he wants that could be an example of an unmet need.I want you to remember here as well, this is never an excuse for cheating. I'm not excusing cheating one little bit, but they are reasons. the better you can understand these reasons, the more you'll be able to prevent it in your relationships.Click To Tweet
Now I want you to remember here as well, this is never an excuse for cheating. I’m not excusing cheating one little bit, but they are reasons. the better you can understand these reasons, the more you’ll be able to prevent it in your relationships.
So there’s always some sort of unmet need on a conscious or subconscious level the second why men cheat is
His Fear of Loss
So his fear of being single is what it essentially amounts to you. See when a man has an unmet need he always has the option to leave the relationship or communicate about it. If communication fails, he always has the option to leave the relationship but fear affects men a lot more than what most women think it does.
A lot of men have a real fear of being alone. I’ve had players straight-up tell me guys who are cheating on the girlfriends.
I’ve had them straight-up tell me” I’m not going to leave my girlfriend because I’m scared to be alone”. It sucks right.
It’s pathetic behavior but it’s better to be aware of it and know that it happens. A guy’s fear of loss how scared he is of being single will contribute to the chance that he will cheat because he has a big unmet need
But he’s not afraid to be single. The guy’s going to talk about it and then walk away from the relationship before he cheats. So the third factor that’s involved why men cheat is probably going to surprise you.
His genetics and his upbringing
There is a massive genetic component to monogamy. People always ask me jones “do you think humans are naturally monogamous”? there’s no answer to that. there’s no yes there’s no. No there are no men aren’t monogamous but women are.
Actors like single parenthood or double parenthood. All these things will change Epigenetics, and on an aggregate level on a generalized level will affect a man’s risk of cheating.
So the fourth factor is his values.
Some men have a really high value for monogamy. they believe in it. Perhaps they have had a church-style upbringing. They really really value that highly other men don't believe in monogamy. At all, it's just not their thing this is different Click To Tweet
.the fourth reason why men cheat is
The impulsiveness of his character.
Very few people who set out to cheat plan to cheat that day. There’s some who do by all means, but most do it on an impulse and they will be the first one to admit that.It was freaking stupid after they’ve done it. cheating often comes ” quote=”Very few people who set out to cheat plan to cheat that day. There’s some who do by all means, but most do it on an impulse and they will be the first one to admit that.It was freaking stupid after they’ve done it. cheating often comes ”
I know lots of women who with impulsive men. Who have never cheated the unmet needs aren’t there, maybe they don’t mind leaving or maybe they just have a really high value on monogamy.
Impulsiveness alone does not mean a man would cheat but it is a risk factor involved in .an important one so, those are the five factors.
The different way these add up together is going to affect a man’s chance of cheating.for example, let’s say that a guy has a somewhat high unmet need, but a very high fear of loss. He mostly values monogamy, and he mostly has the genetics towards monogamy and he’s a middling impulsive character well, his fear of loss is high so, he’s not going to leave the relationship.
he might communicate about it, but let’s say that doesn’t come through for him, and that he’s not getting that need met. He’s still going to be too scared to leave. even though he has a mid-range value for monogamy.
That unmet needs going to increase, and eventually, he gets himself into an impulsive situation. Maybe he gets drunk again not an excuse, but reason and he does something stupid and cheats.
Let’s take maybe a different example, where the guy does have a middling range unmet needs,
- but his fear of loss isn’t that high.
- He values monogamy,
- he’s genetically more monogamous,
- and he’s not such an impulsive character.
- well, that guy’s unmet need could get quite high but he’s probably not going to cheat.
- He values monogamy too much and he’s not afraid to leave the relationship.
- If it comes to it that guy’s at low risk of cheating, take the player may not have a big unmet need at all.
- He might have a little bit of fear of leaving, but he might just have no value at all on monogamy and know genetics towards monogamy.
- No belief in it, by the way, if you want to know how a man if a man values monogamy and how he values it.
- Ask him if he’d ever cheated in his relationships that can be a clue.
- Ask him if he believes humans are naturally monogamous.
- That’s a big clue and ask him if he believes loyal marriages and relationships exist.
So, if you want to know that fourth factor. if you want to know about how a guy values monogamy. that’s a way to find out about. that risk factor, but you know as I was saying that player might be really impulsive, and so, he doesn’t have a big unmet need.
He may not even have a giant fear of leaving the relationship, but he has no real value on monogamy and he’s pretty impulsive to that guy cheat in the next article of Why Do Men Cheat, I’m going to go through into each of these factors,
Unmet needs is an important one. because that’s the one where you can have some influence, and there are certain things you can do to make sure that your man is happy, and getting his needs met as much as you can as much as in your ability to minimize the chances of infidelity in a relationship.
Again this isn’t an excuse, but it is a reason you would want your man to make sure that your needs are being met in the relationship as well not to necessarily.
Even avoid you cheating but just to show his love for you. so, that gives you a wrap as to the factors involved you can see some of those factors unmet needs.
For example, choosing a man who values monogamy. You can have an influence on. other factors are just out of your control of his fear of loss is way too high, and he’s not willing to confront it.
if he’s not geared to that way with his genetics and he’s a very impulsive character then there’s not much you can do.
So these are the factors that contribute and I really look forward to the follow-up article of Why Do Men Cheat where I’m going to explain each of these so you can understand them.
the better you can understand them the more you can minimize and make virtually zero. by picking the right minute and knowing the causes infidelity in your relationships in the future.